This lesson is for those of us who have trouble getting absolute pitch even after a lot of hard work.
Sometimes, we have hidden internal motives that don't want us to
succeed. You see, we all have many different parts that make up
who we are. This is normal and simply describes our internal
process of thinking and decision making. For example, a part of
you might want to go out for dinner and a part of you might want
to stay in. These points of view may be considered separate, but
overlapping, parts that are each working in the best interest of
the self. Each part has "its" own reasons for supporting a
different point of view.
With an overweight person, a part of that person might actually
want to stay overweight as a protection against being hurt. If
that person remains overweight to keep from getting close to
anyone, then the chances of being hurt lessen. So the part that
wants to be healthy and in good shape is in direct conflict with
the part that wants to remain overweight and avoid loss. But
both parts have the best interest of the self in mind. They are
simply coming from very different angles.
How these separate parts relate to having absolute pitch will be
different for you. But a lot of times we hinder our own absolute
pitch development. I actually experienced this as a fear of
the responsibility of having an outstanding ear. Living up to
the high standards of absolute pitch scared me and caused me to
hinder my own personal growth.
I still fight with it today, But once I realized and acknowledged
"that" part of me and what "that" part of me wanted, which is to
protect me (everybody sigh, "Awwwww"), it is much easier,
presently, to find a solution that satisfies the bigger picture.
And that picture is a level of greatness, an ideal, that helps
carve out of rough stone a great musician who's music tames
dragons and captures the hearts of all creatures, great or
small... at least that's my fantasy ideal 
What's yours?
You may know of someone who said this, or maybe you said it
yourself, that absolute pitch would make listening to music
difficult. That part was simply protecting the self from being
let down. But we know that absolute pitch is absolutely a
hearing enhancement, not a hindrance.
Let's go digging in the dirt to see what might be holding you
back. If you don't have absolute pitch now, after following
a simle exercise, you'll at least get rid of any internal
obstacles and clear the path for a smooth ride.
- Identify the Problem
The problem will typically be in the form: "I want to do
this, but something stops me..." or "I don't want to do this,
but I seem to keep doing it just the same..."
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Uncover the *Part*
Ask yourself, "What *part* of me is responsible for this
behavior?" Note what comes up.
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Uncover Positive Intention
Ask that *part*, "What is the positive intention of this
behavior?" It may come as a surprise.
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Create New Positive Behavior
Come up with at least 3 new behaviors that will fulfill
the positive intention in a different way.
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Replace Old Behavior
Choose a behavior that will get agreement among *parts*
and then replace the old behavior with this new behavior.
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Check Yourself
Does it feel right? Then trust yourself and take action
on the new behavior immediately. If it doesn't feel right,
go back to step 4 and create more new positive behaviors.
This is the Six-Step Reframe and it creates congruence.
If you ever feel un easy about something, especially
your own behavior, this little 5-minute mental exercise
will get rid of any conflict and open the possibilities,
giving you more experiences to choose from.
